Lovers showed up again!
Normally, I’d draw another card if I pick a repeat, but lately I’ve been having A LOT of conversations in sessions, with clients as well as in my own life with close friends, around love, pain, hurt, forgiveness and making space for evolution in relationships. So I’m running with this today.
When was the last time a current relationship dynamic brought to the surface an old hurt that you may have buried away? Old hurts can arise not just in past significant relationships, but also friendships, our relationships with our parents, early childhood experiences with one or both of them, possible trauma in connecting with family early on in life.
Sometimes forgiveness is about healing that old hurt/s. It is about building the self-awareness to notice the stories you may be building and running off with, that are coming from an older experience of pain or hurt. Forgiveness is letting yourself hurt and grieve the old, so you can heal it and separate the two — the past and the present.
Forgiveness is understanding that you can heal the past in order to reduce the stress it causes in the present.
- is to heal yourself
- helps loosen the grip an old hurt has over you
- doesn’t always mean reconciliation
- can happen over a distance, without a single conversation with the other
- can help establish new, healthy boundaries you need
Forgiveness takes time. And most of all, you deserve to give yourself forgiveness too.